I recently saw the movie Us. There’s a scene where the family goes to their lake house and they pan to one of the walls containing a painting of a black mama flexing with her black daughter flexing right in front of her. I love the painting. It is a powerful image for many reasons. I mention their race in the painting because the thing that struck me was the reminder that Kameron will not get the joy of having a black mama. Every time I think about it, it makes me so heartbroken for Kameron.
Adoption is a clear definition of finding hope in the midst of a tragedy. Because of The Fall, things like adoption take place. This is not how God intended it all. Once sin entered the world, it infiltrated every aspect of life and relationships. It is a tragedy that she is not with her biological parents and being raised by them. I mourn that she will not be brought up by a strong black mama like the painting, like she deserves. I mourn that she will have so much to process and overcome because she is going to be raised by white parents. I mourn that she will not know her culture as well as if she were being raised in it. I mourn that she will have to go through the loss of leaving all the people she loves at Mwana and try to attach to people she barely knows. If I let it, it can all feel so heavy and overwhelming.
But then there’s hope, which is Kameron’s middle name. In Jesus, I have full confidence and hope that Kameron’s future is for His glory. She may endure more trials than others, but we count it all joy in knowing that He will keep her close when times get tough. He will never leave her. He loves her, knows every part of her, and sees her in her current and future struggles. What a comfort to know that the God that made the heavens and the earth cares for our daughter way more than we do! How can I fear after being reminded of that truth? May His glory shine in her so brightly because of the trials she will face. May she know Him better, and love Him deeper because of her hardships. May she always turn to Him and let Him be her strength.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weakness, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I shall not be afraid. What can flesh do to me? Psalm 56:3-4